Psychology-of-Body-Language

"The Authentic Soul Of Powerful Personal Influence"

- by Rev Dr John Lutwyche-Clements

Personal influence never stops - for better or for worse. We
influence others, and they influence us, in some cases even
beyond death. Memories of a deceased parent, teacher, preacher,
or mentor continue to dwell with us; in fact, their influence
may actually increase with time.

Influence can be subtle. Two people might do the same thing or
say the same words and yet exert very different influences.
Don't be blinded by outward appearances. Your inner impressions
are a more accurate gauge of genuineness.

Suppose your own character is somewhat less attractive than
you'd like. Maybe you're afflicted by such a bad temper that you
constantly feel obliged to overcompensate. The dilemma then
arises: you can either continue to go through this charade your
whole life; or you can decide to be true to yourself.

If you manufacture a mask of friendship to conceal your
irritability, you may affect a cheesy grin, a smoothness of
tone, a blandness of vocabulary, a careful control of body
language - all ruses to transform your overt hostility into
covert hostility! Cool on the outside; raging hot within! What a
wearying way to spend the day!

Personal influence radiates from the real person; whereas an
unreal persona exercises personal manipulation. Personality-
disguises are inauthentic, disingenuous, and self-defeating.
Even the best orator will be unconvincing if he does not believe
his own message. Yet an unskilled speaker can have the audience
hanging on his every word - as long as the meaning carries
weight. Authenticity makes the difference.

The mechanistic perfectionist may be admired at the beginning;
but it's the sound of the authentic soul that will please the
listener's ear longest. Words that come straight from your heart
speak straight to the hearts of others. So it's useless to
preach unless YOU are the sermon. Your words will ring hollow
unless you are seen and felt to live their meaning.

The Biblical Pharisee is one who lays down the law
enthusiastically, but practices none of the spirit. The modern
Pharisee fails to "walk the talk."

If we want to have positive influence in the world, we have to
be good people on behalf of the world. And since every
individual is part of the world, we must be good to every
individual we meet - otherwise our influence will not spread in
the ways that we wish.

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Rev Dr John L. Clements
is an international writer, speaker, life coach and author of
"Excellence Becomes You: proven principles to raise your life
from mediocrity to excellence"
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About the author:
Rev Dr John L. Clements is an international writer, speaker,
life coach and author of "Excellence Becomes You: proven
principles to raise your life from mediocrity to excellence"
Read More